September 2, 2016 by Drafts & Crafts
Our baby boy is 3.5 months old and the “4th trimester” is coming to an end so I am sharing 4 things that I have learned about being a new mama.
A sweet little family photo taken at the Castillo De San Marcos Fort in St. Augustine, FL
Our darling, Tanner, is almost 4 months old and I think it is safe to say that both Jason and myself have learned a tremendous amount about babies, ourselves, and each other since becoming a family of 3. As a female who has always wanted children, people were constantly telling me about what being a parent is like. I think I had a perfectly painted picture about what being a mom was going to be all about. For the most part, it was all true. Having a child is truly the most amazing experience and there is no greater love in the world than when you lay eyes on your precious baby. I wanted to share 4 things that I learned and some of my own misconceptions that became clear in my 4th trimester.
- When it comes to mommy and baby sleeping, do what works for you. I said my entire pregnancy that I would not co-sleep, and while I did not, that is only because I felt our bed was not big enough. Jason and I have a queen size bed, but if we had a king size bed, that baby would have been right in the middle of us. Tanner slept in a rock and play sleeper for 6 weeks and then I moved him to his crib because he made too much noise and I felt like he was getting too big for the sleeper. Do not listen to what other suggest, do what works best for your family.
- Be a practical parent. I found myself getting these perfect ideas of motherhood in my head and was stubborn about little things. For instance, for the first few weeks of Tanner’s life, I refused to put him in night gowns. I got the notion in my mind that night gowns look ridiculous on boys and pajamas were cuter. Let me tell you, putting a night gown on Tanner was the best thing we ever did! haha.. middle of the night diaper changes got so much easier.
- Try your best to worry less. I know it is easier said than done. Caring for your very own child is such a new feeling. You want to do everything correctly and make sure your little love is happy each second of everyday, but tiny (and big) fits, cries, and issues will come up. I learned it is crucial not worry too much, because each week it will be something new. There was one week we discovered that Tanner had reflux, which we were worried about it how to “fix it” so that he would be comfortable. Then the following week, he did not poop for the entire week. When he was not pooping, I totally forget how worried I was about his reflux. With that being said, everything appears to be just a phase that changes from one week to the next.
- Do not hesitate to ask for help. I think everyone can agree that being sleep deprived can make you a delirious. You spend your days getting acquainted with your new baby, feeding, changing, and playing. If you are feeling overwhelmed, there is no shame in asking for help. My parents stayed with us for the 2 weeks when Tanner was born and after that I asked my mother-in-law to come over so I could take a nap.
This is just some food for thought. I wish I would have gotten some of these notions out of my head before month 3 with Tanner! If you are a mama or even a fur mama, can you relate or are there any ideas that you had to overcome as a new mom? I would love to hear your thoughts! Bless long weekends, enjoy!
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